It's the Law:Domestic Violence

Domestic violence is a very serious problem. It affects us all. It is especially bad for children. Domestic violence situations can often arise in the context of a divorce, separation or child custody situation. Very serious laws have been enacted to punish and to prevent domestic violence.

What is “domestic violence”? It is any act or threatened act of violence directed toward someone you are related to or have a relationship with. This covers a lot of ground and can include some seemingly insignificant acts. If you touch somebody intentionally (not accidentally) in the context of a domestic dispute, you can be subject to some serious legal consequences. Lightly pushing someone or shaking their chair are examples of behavior that can get you arrested.

If you are involved in an argument and tempers are rising, and you can’t reduce the level of conflict by reasonable means, say “no” to domestic violence – leave, and don’t slam the door on the way out! Don’t put yourself at risk. The consequences of domestic violence can be devastating, even where then is absolutely no physical injury involved.

If a 911 caller alleges domestic violence, someone is going to get arrested. Incidentally, a 911 hang up is treated the same as if the call was completed. If you interfere with someone who is trying to call 911 – congratulations, you have just committed a felony!

If you are arrested for domestic violence, the prosecutor can’t drop the charges, or plea bargain for a charge that does not include domestic violence. Unless you want to enter a plea of anything other than “not guilty”, your only recourse is to go to trial and hope that a jury will find that the prosecutor has not proved the case against you.

Once you are convicted of domestic violence, you can say “goodbye” to work that involves taking care of other human beings, such as anything related to medicine or education.

Domestic violence laws apply equally to men and to women. Even if you are a woman who has been chronically subjected to physical, emotional, and psychological abuse, if you lose your temper and push back, you could be arrested and have to deal with the stigma of a domestic violence conviction for the rest of our life.

So, just say ”no” – leave, avoid a conflict. It’s not only the smart thing to do, it’s the law! You may not like it. You may not understand it. You may not think it’s fair, but it’s the law!